Three things I wish I knew before buying my first toy

I made every beginner mistake. Here’s the short list of things that would’ve saved me money and frustration.

1. Buy lube before you buy a toy

I cannot stress this enough. The number-one reason people don’t enjoy a toy is they didn’t use enough lube. Get a water-based one (it’s safe with everything), keep it on the nightstand, use more than you think you need.

The one I actually recommend. Boring choice, right answer.

Sliquid H2O Original

PinkCherry · $12 · 4.7/5

Water-based, glycerin-free, paraben-free. Safe with every toy material. The default pick.

15% offCode: LUBE15

2. Cheap is fine to start. Body-safe is not optional.

You don’t need a $200 toy to figure out what you like. But you do need one made of silicone, glass, or stainless steel — not "jelly," not soft TPE/PVC. Those leach plasticizers.

Tenga Egg (6-pack)

PinkCherry · $36 · 4/5

Disposable solo strokers with six different internal textures. Genuinely cheap way to try variety.

3. Curiosity is a feature, not a bug

If you’re wondering about something, that’s usually a good enough reason to try a beginner version. Anal trainers like the one below are a way better intro than diving in cold.

Doc Johnson Mood Naughty 2

PinkCherry · $32 · 4.3/5

Three-piece silicone anal training set. The kit I recommend to anyone curious.

Compare the picks in this post

ProductPriceRatingRetailer
Sliquid H2O OriginalWater-based, glycerin-free, paraben-free. Safe with every toy material. The default pick.$124.7/5PinkCherryCheck price
Tenga Egg (6-pack)Disposable solo strokers with six different internal textures. Genuinely cheap way to try variety.$364/5PinkCherryCheck price
Doc Johnson Mood Naughty 2Three-piece silicone anal training set. The kit I recommend to anyone curious.$324.3/5PinkCherryCheck price

Products mentioned

Sliquid H2O Original

PinkCherry · $12 · 4.7/5

Water-based, glycerin-free, paraben-free. Safe with every toy material. The default pick.

15% offCode: LUBE15

Tenga Egg (6-pack)

PinkCherry · $36 · 4/5

Disposable solo strokers with six different internal textures. Genuinely cheap way to try variety.

Doc Johnson Mood Naughty 2

PinkCherry · $32 · 4.3/5

Three-piece silicone anal training set. The kit I recommend to anyone curious.

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